Why the smartest people have the toughest time dating

11-Sep-2019 14:29

That difficulty is heightened if they're used to getting exceptions and special treatment due to their high performance.

In an interview with Adam Bryant at The New York Times, former Tesco CEO Sir Terry Leahy described how he tried to create a culture centered around good service and good manners.

For some people, that’s a transition that they have to make, and not everybody can make it.

Sometimes the brightest find it the hardest to make that transition because they’ve always been better than the people around them.

Researchers have uncovered the reason for this difference in how difficulty is interpreted, and it is simply this: more often than not, bright girls believe that their abilities are innate and unchangeable, while bright boys believe that they can develop ability through effort and practice.

How do girls and boys develop these different views?

How often have you found yourself avoiding challenges and playing it safe, sticking to goals you knew would be easy for you to reach?

We are routinely underestimated, underutilized, and even underpaid.They were more likely to redouble their efforts, rather than give up. What makes smart girls more vulnerable, and less confident, when they should be the most confident kids in the room?At the 5 grade level, girls routinely outperform boys in every subject, including math and science.I was always one of the more rare, self-reliant girls who saw every problem as a challenge-I think this had to do with the fact that my father's influence during this stretch of my life was very strong-much stronger than my mother's influence.Father always taught me to stop and think through each problem to find a solution (bless him, the business owner that he was!

We are routinely underestimated, underutilized, and even underpaid.

They were more likely to redouble their efforts, rather than give up. What makes smart girls more vulnerable, and less confident, when they should be the most confident kids in the room?

At the 5 grade level, girls routinely outperform boys in every subject, including math and science.

I was always one of the more rare, self-reliant girls who saw every problem as a challenge-I think this had to do with the fact that my father's influence during this stretch of my life was very strong-much stronger than my mother's influence.

Father always taught me to stop and think through each problem to find a solution (bless him, the business owner that he was!

So there were no differences between these boys and girls in ability, nor in past history of success.