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30-Oct-2019 19:48

In fact, as someone who quit drinking a long time ago, my own "rule" when dating was not to date a formerly addicted person unless that person had been comfortably abstinent for at least five years.

I got through it with help from here, but it was the first time in a long time I felt like drinking for some reason.I don't think that there's anything magic about 365 days. It would be too stressful for me, and it would be unfair to my date if I was unable to manage my emotions/stress of early sobriety and took it out on them.Maybe one person is ready to start dating after 4 months, and another in 5 years, it all depends on the person. Maybe you want to date because you are lonely and feel dating may help you, and maybe even help you stay sober. I just think it is unfair to use an "innocent bystander" (a date) to deal with my feelings of loneliness and stress.But dating is an event that you choose for yourself, not one forced on you like losing a job, death/illness of a loved one, etc.Why would you want to make things harder for yourself deliberately?

I got through it with help from here, but it was the first time in a long time I felt like drinking for some reason.

I don't think that there's anything magic about 365 days. It would be too stressful for me, and it would be unfair to my date if I was unable to manage my emotions/stress of early sobriety and took it out on them.

Maybe one person is ready to start dating after 4 months, and another in 5 years, it all depends on the person. Maybe you want to date because you are lonely and feel dating may help you, and maybe even help you stay sober. I just think it is unfair to use an "innocent bystander" (a date) to deal with my feelings of loneliness and stress.

But dating is an event that you choose for yourself, not one forced on you like losing a job, death/illness of a loved one, etc.

Why would you want to make things harder for yourself deliberately?

If the idea of a year without dating causes anxiety or seems impossible..you might have other issues.